Dwindling Social Skills (The New Technology)

With all the latest internet and communication fads that have come along over the past few years, e.g., Cyber communities, text messaging, and of course for those really important folk who are DAMN lucky that Twitter came along when it did; it’s a “Brave New World” of euphoria.  Modern technology has now afforded society a much stealthier way to avoid those whom they deem as unimportant, inferior, or of no significance to ones own personal agenda.

Now, I don’t mean to sound bitter…No, actually I DO mean to sound bitter!  I hated Myspace and I really despise Facebook.  If any person, as a child ever tried to block out horrible feelings of irrelevance; these popular, online communities have made damn sure they are in touch with those feelings now.  Unfortunately, this seems to be the only way people communicate anymore.

 One of the greatest movie lines of all time was painfully articulated in the film “He’s Just Not That into You” by the lovely Drew Barrymore. “I had this guy leave me a voice-mail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my Blackberry, and so I text-ed to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies.  It’s exhausting.”

One thing that I find completely perplexing is how one person on Facebook can make a posting about an achievement they worked so hard to obtain and get absolutely no reply.  Yet someone else can post some dumb-ass comment regarding the fact that they just let their dog out to take a dump, and they receive like seventy comments! WTF!?!?!?

Back when I had a Myspace Music page, one thing that use to annoy the hell out of me was receiving hundreds of friend requests from dorky-ass bands with that same tired message attached “Hey check out our music.  We guarantee you’ve never heard anything as cool as the stuff we’re doing.  We totally RAWK!!!  If you dig our tunes, we’ll be more than happy to sale you a CD!!!”  No…really…yu…yu…you’d actually sale ME a CD!?!?  THAT’S SO COOL!!!  Now as a musician, I can certainly understand the desire of wanting to be heard.  But, come on; do these Linkin Park wannabees not grasp the concept of networking or for that matter common courtesy?  If you’re going to go to another musicians page and try to get them to by your “Shit on a Disk”, with Howdy Doody, Potsy Weber, some cat who thinks he’s Dave Mustaine, and an Ann Wilson Look alike (which upon closer examination, you discover is the DUDE who sings) on the CD cover, you might want to think about commenting on that persons tunes first…and then you can start your sales pitch.  I don’t care if you think I sound like flies buzzing around horse shit…just lie!  It’s called networking Sparky!!!

Well now Facebook has taken over where Myspace left off.  However, they do things a little differently.  You have to start a personal profile before considering an artist fan…uh...I mean “Ilike” page.  Now I’ve always despised the word “Fan”.  That term should be reserved towards someone like Prince.  But, to get your music on your page you need to have “Ilike” for streaming, which is owned by guess who?  Myspace!!!! 

Okay, so I’m only going to bitch about one more thing.  This is not exactly like the Myspace band networking thing.  Nevertheless, I find it just as irritating.  I now receive “Ilike” requests from bands on Facebook.  I don’t have an issue with this as much as I do with the fact that when I send a request back to them, they completely blow it off.   Wow…you’re such big Rockstars that it’s beneath you to reciprocate?  Now let me make one thing clear, this is not with all my musician friends.  Just a certain few who have it in their heads that they’re too busy, too important, I really don’t know.  I do know that most of these bands were the same ones that I turned a lot of close friends and family onto a year or so ago.  Then, when I asked them if they would return the favor, I got the big blow off! 

I think the one thing that pissed me off the most though was when a drummer friend of mine was putting together a venue a few months back.  He called me up and asked me if I had the telephone number to contact a member of a certain; as I refer to them “Tempe Dinosaur Band”.  He was hoping that they might be interested in headlining the show.  Personally, I had a feeling they wouldn’t.  Nonetheless, I gave him the number.  What I didn’t expect though was that the guy didn’t even have the common courtesy to return my friends call.  The thing that really got me fired up was that just 2 weeks prior, this band headlined a show at the same club and my friend and I were the only 2 people that were sitting in the room listening to them.  Everyone else either left or was sitting back at the bar.  Yet in return for that kind gesture of support, my bud gets“The Big Blow Off”!

I’ve been doing this music crap for over twenty-five years now, and what have I come to learn?  EVERYONES A FREAKIN ROCKSTAR!!!